Does "Dramatic" Behavior Indicate a Lack of Responsibility?

It seems that "dramatic" people, those who get overly emotional in conversations for no apparent reason, demonstrate a lack of emotional intelligence needed to handle certain topics. When someone's behavior includes outbursts and other mental tactics used to derail a conversation or shift focus, they are reacting with emotion rather than responding with reason. In that sense, they lack “response-ability”. 

The biggest hurdle most of us face in being response-able, is coming to terms with being accountable for our choices, remembering that allowing others to treat us badly is a choice. We have to realize our need to make better choices, and God’s way of showing us that is through suffering. 

Rather than seeing discomfort and annoyance as God’s cues for internal growth and leaning into them to find the lesson, most of us practice avoidance or some form of manipulation to disregard or remove the source of the discomfort, so we don’t have to face the lesson. This dysfunction inevitably results in fractured families and community discord. 

We never seem to understand our suffering while we are in its midst. We don’t suffer because we are a ‘bad’ person or doing ‘bad’ things. We suffer because we make poor choices from being misguided, manipulated, and/or misunderstood...often left to our own devices for figuring things out.

Being headstrong and stubborn, I learned my lessons the hard way, through repetition. I have experienced first-hand the harsh realities of life, loss, and spiritual fracturing that I wouldn’t wish upon anybody. My life has been a journey forged in fire, only most of the time I was the one holding the match! 

To truly step into Christ, we must let go of hoping someone else will ‘save us’ and summon the courage from within to face the darkness within. In doing so, our eyes adjust and we can begin to see our own light shine. Only then can we truly understand that the direction of our sacred journey is inward. 

We must learn to choose with intention and purpose to have Christ in our heart in each moment. 

This doesn’t mean becoming a ‘goody-two-shoes’ who claims to be saved and it’s all on Jesus now. It means that after feeling the electricity in the body coming from a full awakening (or chakra activation), we only wish to duplicate its resonance. This vibrational frequency generates gratitude, authenticity, and love within our hearts, and is undeniable once experienced. Who wouldn't want to stay there?

It also doesn’t mean trying to always be happy or comfortable. It means being present to and at peace with how we observe our experiences, so we have the ability to respond. Response-ability. This is what generates happiness within each moment, not what others do or say or think.